Today my friend you’ll be laid to your final rest.
Yes, you will be sorely missed.
But when I think of you,
I will smile
and remember your laughter,
you tending to your garden
and smelling your flowers.
Your love and friendship
that you so readily gave.
I will remember you in your joy
I will remember you with happiness.
“I am as willing to cradle my own heart as I am to cradle others”. I allow others to nurture and support me.” ~ Sue Patton Thoele
It doesn’t seem to matter how long it has been since you’ve last seen each other, it always seems like just yesterday when you get together with good friends! You know, the kind of friends that you have been through thick and thin together. The kind of friends where you can be yourself and that it doesn’t matter if the house is spotless before they come over, because guess what? They could care less! Chances are you have all been to each others houses over time for spontaneous get togethers, to help each other out, hopefully not too many emergencies, and to just hang out. The kind of friends where you share each others secrets, there’s always way too much food, and most of all raucous laughter and joy can be heard coming from wherever you are gathered. This kind of friendship is a gift not to be taken for granted and to be treasured.
“An open home, an open heart, here grows a bountiful harvest.” — Judy Hand
Holidays while a time to celebrate can often be stressful. It is a time to gather with family and friends. Some of those you may not see but only a few times a year if even that much.
Now in all the holiday togetherness everyone comes together to celebrate, talk, usually share at least one meal and sometimes more. Add in stressful long travels, crying children, pets, perhaps those partaking of other ‘holiday spirits’, and maybe sharing too much togetherness in one space, and suddenly your best holiday event may just be turning into too much to handle. Here are some tips to not only survive but hopefully help you keep it fun, loving, and memorable in a good way.
“7 Simple Tips to Help You Survive the Holidays”
- Take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. When you are feeling your best, you can better handle whatever you encounter.
- Don’t overbook or try to do too much. Let others help. Simple is okay and can still be nice and even elegant.
- Take control of your time. If you are visiting, set a time limit on how long you will visit that you feel is reasonable, but still polite.
- Spend your time with people you like, including favorite relatives or friends as much as possible. Do not engage in negative conversations, especially those bringing up sensitive subjects or past disagreements.
- If you feel totally stressed out or dread the holiday, is there something new you would enjoy doing to perhaps start a new tradition?
- Don’t let past memories or guilt dictate your holiday. Live in the moment and enjoy!
- It’s okay to leave early if you are ready. Don’t let guilt prolong your visit if you are having to do your very best to stay.
Some people struggle with the holidays for various reasons often unknown to others. It helps everyone if we all remember this and be extra understanding and kind to one another. Perhaps someone has recently lost a loved one, or has negative memories of past holidays, or there are just too many big people, little people, and furry ones with changed routines in one gathering space. I just try to remember Thanksgiving is a time to truly give thanks for all of our blessings and opportunities that have been bestowed on us. Happy Thanksgiving to all of you and yours!
*This article is to be informative only. If you feel you are in need of mental health professional services, please contact your local medical or mental health provider. Thank you.